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MY PAIN IS YOUR GAIN

I'm a single father of two beautiful chidren and I live in Novato, CA. I am also the embodiment of several neurotic tendencies. But you will find that out soon enough.

I'll be writing honest blog entries about my trials and successes as a single father. Tune in to hear about my foibles and learn about all the mistakes you shouldn't make. I take the hit, you gain the knowledge.



You can find older posts at the bottom of this column.
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THINGS I'M ENJOYING LATELY

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Chemotherapy.


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Radiation Treatments.



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Nausea.


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Hair Loss

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Things I've Never Done

Sometimes I think about the things that I haven't done in life, basic things. Things that it seems should have happened by now but for some reason hasn't.

1. Hosted a party at my house in Junior high or High School (parents wouldn't allow it)
2. Been a member of a wedding party or been a best man.
3. Bought a house
4. Skydived
5. Fallen in love at first sight (and having it reciprocated)
6. Gone on a crazy cross country hippy road trip with my friends after college (all of my friends went and got jobs, the great bores)
7. Visited anywhere in New England
8. Ridden a horse and had it do what I wanted it to do.
9. Understood America's obsession with professional sports
10. Read a Shakespeare Play
11. Had any kind of retail job. (thank goodness!)
12. Gone skiing
13. Seen Tom Petty in a live concert

On the other hand, there are some other things I have done that never occured to me to do, until the experience was upon me...

1. Gone on a cross country drive with a friend and videotaped the entire round-trip from the dashboard for the sole purpose of watching it play back at a high rate of speed later.
2. Sang Disney's "Be Our Guest" to a packed wedding reception in Japan to hundreds of people who couldn't understand a word I was singing.
3. Directed a 4th grade class in Golden Gate Park in how to build a living model of the solar system when each student was assigned to be a particular moon or planet and told how to move relative to each other.
4. Gone on a tour of several elementary schools in rural Kansas with a small black and white Macintosh, telling anyone who would listen, in 1987, how computers were about to fundamentally change our society.
5. Actually saved a guy with the Heimlich maneuver when he stumbled up to me in an Arby's parking lot.
6. Fathered two amazing children.
7. Shared every aspect of my cancer diagnosis with the world at large, through this blog and Facebook, without holding anything back.
8. Taught myself to swim.

So I guess all I'm saying here is that there are things we expect from life that never arrive, and there are plenty of surprises that we can never anticipate. This is Depot Dad saying here's hoping you notice the surprises the day has in store for you.